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FLY MOMMIE FRIDAY – Tiffani Calcote | Sagitt...

FLY MOMMIE FRIDAY – Tiffani Calcote | Sagittarius

Tell us a little about yourself?
I am a warm spirit, a mother, a sister, a friend a confidant, a cheerleader, and survivor. At 44, I can truly say that I have arrived – she’s here! Life’s ups and down have molded and shaped me into the woman that I am today, and it doesn’t stop here. I have a voracious appetite for knowledge and I Iove learning about myself and the world around me.  I’m a Los Angeles native, born to New York transplants, so I’ve always had the best of both the east and west coasts. I guess this means I’m just Cali easy breezy with a little NYC edge. I’m an artist at heart and look to my creativity as an outlet and stress reliever. I’ve lived a blessed life and proud to have had opportunities to surround myself and associate with with amazingly beautiful people such as Angela Williams ;-).

What is the one most important thing you hope to teach your child/children?
One of the most important things that I can teach my son, is that character is everything; he should always strive to do the right thing no matter how hard or uncomfortable it may seem.

What are your 3 best character traits? 
I’m loyal, honest and and have the ability to self reflect.

What are you most looking forward to? 
I’m on the verge of completing my master’s degree in clinical social work, so I’m definitely looking forward to embarking on my new career in clinical social work and behavioral medicine.

What are some of your favorite things?
Some of my favorite things in no specific order are: My Omega juicer, old jeans, cashmere sweaters, garage sales, green tea latte’s from Urth Caffe, art books, inspiring conversations with friends, crunchy fall leaves, Creed cologne, the smell of tobacco (reminds me of my grandfather’s pipe), black and white photography, classic rock poster art, and oh yes music, music, music – everything from A Tribe Called Quest, to Antonio Carlos Jobim and everything in between!

What or who inspires you?
I’m inspired by the idea that we can literally accomplish anything that we set our minds to. If we put enough energy toward anything,  it will come to fruition.

How would you describe your style?
My style is somewhat eclectic and laid back, I guess It would be considered “California Casual”, you know jeans, cardigan wrap sweaters, scarves, aviator sunglasses with of course a great leather satchel or hobo bag 😉

What’s your favorite clothing brand?
I don’t think I have an absolute favorite. I kind of buy from where ever, I guess I just like what I like, be it from Barney’s or Goodwill. On that note, I think I have pretty good eye for quality, I mean I’ve been at yard sales and found some amazing, high quality pieces of clothing that other people ignored or picked over.

Do you have a favorite recipe? 
My “grandmother’s” Gumbo recipe is a favorite. Gumbo making is an event; an all day affair. No matter what was going on, my grandmother’s gumbo brought the family, friends, and friends of friends together. Sadly, she passed away before I could get her to share with me all of the little nuances and particulars of her gumbo recipe. Thus, I was never able to reproduce it exactly as she made it. However, one day I came across a gumbo recipe that tasted almost exactly like hers. After a little trial and error, and tweaking the recipe, I was successful – I’d actually arrived at what tasted exact like my grandmother’s gumbo!

What makes your soul happy?
The relationship that I have with God truly feeds my soul, there is nothing else like it.

What’s your proudest mommie moment? 
My proudest mommie moment was the day that my son got hired by the fire department. His success in that area was indicative of everything that I’d poured into him over the years. I raised him to be an honest, hardworking gentleman of good character and it really paid off!

Where is your favorite place to spend time with your family?
I love spending time with my family right at home. We don’t have to be doing anything in particular. We could have a great time when we are all together, simply laughing and talking around he kitchen table.

What are your strengths/weaknesses as a mother? 
My strength as a mother is my commitment to my child. I once heard my Godmother say “You can never do enough for your children.”  I’m a firm believer in this. I take that to mean that we should support our children in all of their positive endeavors as a means to insure their success in this world, which, as we all know can at times, be a cruel and unforgiving place. By no means do I mean that we should simply give our children everything, or that children shouldn’t learn to work hard, that would be crippling and counter productive to their success later on in life.

My weakness, is my commitment to my child! As a mother we always want the best for our children and sometimes it’s hard to sit back and watch them make mistakes. However, I learned that it was imperative that I allow him to fall and get back up on his own at times. Otherwise, how else would he build character, or learn from his mistakes, or learn independence? I remember cringing and the stress that I would feel watching him do something wrong, or fall short in an area. I had to train myself to stay put, and allow him to figure things out and/or self correct.

What’s in your purse? 
Well, let’s see…my new Blackberry Priv phone (yes people, Blackberry just came out with a new android phone and alas, it has a real slide-up keyboard, don’t hate!), my makeup bag, my wallet, Tom Ford eyeglasses (gotta see at night), a hairbrush, a favorite scent Cedrat Envirant – Cologne Absolue rollerball, Altoids, a really cool purse hook, bobbi pins, loose change, car keys…

What beauty brands do you use and what’s your beauty routine?
I use Clinique to cleanse, exfoliate and moisturize my skin, and sometimes Laura Mercier Tinted Moisturizer. I like MAC lipsticks/blushes, Too Faced lip stains, Covergirl Lash Blast mascara (eyelashes on fleek!), and always, lip gloss.

What advice would you give your 21 year old self?
If I could look my 21 year-old self in the eye, I’d say practice patience and always focus on the big picture; look at the long-run.

What is your mantra?
Stay positive!!

What are you passionate about?
I am passionate about healthy living; healthy living starts in the mind. Our beliefs about ourselves contribute to behavior that impacts everything from our diet to our lifestyle. There is definitely a connection between our thoughts, our core beliefs and our health. I beat cancer through the alternative means of radical lifestyle and dietary changes, and stress reduction.  I attribute this amazing feat to my mindset and my supercharged will to live. If I could do it, so can anyone else! We all have the capability of living a healthful life, we just have to first believe that it’s possible.

Do you belong to or donate your time to any charitable/philanthropic organizations and if so, which ones?
At the present time, I don’t. However, I do support the Independent Cancer Research Foundation

Why you’re a Q U I N K E N Z O Fly Mommie…
Tiffani is fly because her easy going, cool demeanor translates over to her style sense. In a society that’s filled with women overdoing it with the contouring and injecting, this fly mommie shines with effortless beauty AND style. She’s a creative at heart who has a portfolio of funky graphic design projects but has chosen to shift her focus to a more demanding and rewarding role as a social worker.  She’s just a natural beauty inside & out, has freckles that I’ve always wanted, creative, smart and fearless and as a #cancersurvivor she’s changing the game on how to approach life.  Yup! She’s Fly!

  1. Cheyenne Pierce

    6 February

    Tiffany ! I love our goodwill fashion talks ! Thank you for making me a better and valuable social work practioner ..MSW’s Rock this may be a few months early but welcome to club ❤️ When I grow up I wanna be a an awesome mom to my future adult children as I’ve witnessed you be to your son.

  2. Cheyenne Pierce

    6 February

    Excuse my above typos … It’s late good night !

  3. Flymommies

    10 February

    Continue to be Fly Tiff!

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