Diary of a Virgo

50 Shades of Gray

I just don’t want to accept it, nope, this can’t be! I keep telling myself…”Angela its ok to age gracefully” …but not gracefully gray, not yet anyway. Now, I’ve had gray hair for some time now, probably since my early 30’s but it was never a problem because I color my hair. Now of course the grays just keep coming and coming so I keep coloring and coloring. But what I thought was odd was that my hair felt damaged, even a few weeks after getting a trim. Almost brittle. And I’m like…whoa!!!! What the heck!?!?!? I’m a NATURALISTA!! Just when I’m finally getting into a groove with this natural hair care thing. It never ever dawned on me it was the grays. Maybe because I don’t feel like I’m in my mid-forties so these kinds of things just don’t cross my mind. LOL.  It’s kind of like when I feel like I can do 30 burpies and I can barely make it to 10! Instead I’m thinking… I’m doing everything to keep my curls nourished and healthy. What in the world is going on here!?!? So I just kept getting trims, kept moisturizing, kept deep conditioning, kept applying protein treatments and so on and so on. Then I thought…now Angela, what if? NO WAY!!!! It’s the gray hair!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So now what?!?! My first thought was oh heck, just cut it off, this is too much work. But then I said nope, I’m not going down without a fight. So this just means another aspect of natural hair I must tackle and learn. Now certain things are all starting to make sense. I’m learning that because there is an absence of melanin in gray hair it’s not such a good idea to have my locks flowing out in the sun like I’ve always done (which I admit, I absolutely love to do). In the past year, I’ve definitely seen and felt a change in my curl pattern, elasticity, shine, texture and strength. My hair has become very porous and brittle. What I once thought was an enemy, may end up being my friend now that the gray is taking over (Shea Butter products). Here are some of the things I’m going to start doing to help me during this transition:

  1. Using products infused with shea butter will help my curls to get the added moisture they need.
  2. I’m also going to continue to apply Jojoba Oil or maybe try Vitamin E Oil at night and hopefully that will help.
  3. I had some friends mention recently they take a daily dose of Omega Fish Oil and Magnesium as part of their daily nutiritional supplement, so I’m definitely going to incorporate those into my routine.
  4. As hard as it is for me, I’m also going to try to be more consistent with my protective styles and use DevaCurl Set It Free, TGIN Twist & Define Cream, Camille Rose Almond Jai Twisting Butter or Mielle Organics Avocado Hair Milk.
  5. I will make sure to add a serum like either Giovanni Frizz Be Gone or Camille Rose Naturals Cocoa Nibs & Honey Ultimate Growth Serum
  6. Continue to Deep Condition EVERY Sunday with TGIN Honey Miracle Hair Mask, do a Protein Treatment with Aphogee Intensive at least twice a month and once a month do an Apple Cider Vinegar rinse.

So until I get these unruly curls in order, off to Sally’s I got to touch up this here color!

Natural Girls Unite! #diaryofavirgo



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  1. Love the blog and the title. You are undeniably beautiful.
    Proverbs 16:31 Gray hair is a crown of splendor; it is attained in the way of righteousness.

    • quinkenzo

      4 March

      Thanks so much! I miss you at work but I’m filled with joy knowing you’re living your truth. xo

  2. Maggie Benton

    4 March

    Protein every two weeks… That sounds like a lot to me. Maybe try easing up on the protein and doing it once a month, it’s finding that safe zone balance between too much and not enough… It can be damaging if you add too much protein…

    • quinkenzo

      4 March

      Yeah, I’ve heard that too Maggie. I did ease up to once a month but it just seemed like my hair needed it twice a month. But you’re right…it’s all about finding that balance of what works for your hair and what doesn’t. I haven’t done a protein treatment in a month so I’m going to do one Sunday since I just colored my hair. Hope all is well and wonderful with you beautiful. xo

  3. Bobi

    4 March

    The GRAY hair!!!! Thanks for the tips.

  4. Kim Gales

    4 March

    I must say you’re becoming the hair care expert and your advice hasn’t failed me yet so I will follow directions. I refuse to embrace the gray just yet. Thanks again for such insight. Awesome stuff!!

  5. Kinawa Crawford

    4 March

    Awesome read. I managed a Sally Beauty Supply for 15yrs. Grey coverage was the number one inquiry from customers. There is only a temporary fix to coloring grey. As my hair starts to grey more I still color, but I don’t worry about the grey. I know there’s nothing that will cover it permanently! I’m addicted to color!!!!! Lol

  6. Mamie

    4 March

    I will never embrace unless I’m almost bald lol – great article honey

  7. Rosemary

    5 December

    I color my hair every two weeks and my scalp us so sensitive now. I cannot use peroxide developer, I switched to a non burning developer. Also I’m losing my hair, I always had thick long hair and huge amounts are falling out, what can I do? Is there a vitamin I need or supplement. Please help, I just do not like to see the gray which is why I color every 2 weeks. Rosemary

    • quinkenzo

      12 January

      Hi Rosemary! So sorry it took me so long to respond! I so wish I had an answer for you but I don’t feel equipped or nearly experienced enough to offer recommendations. The only advice I would give would be to maybe start incorporating some essential oils in your haircare routine. Try this:
      •4 tsp (20 mL) jojoba oil
      •4 tsp (20 mL) coconut oil
      •10 drops lavender oil
      •5 drops rosemary
      •5 drops clary sage
      •5 drops cedarwood

      1.In a 2 oz (60 mL) glass bottle combine your ingredients and shake to mix thoroughly
      2.Pour 1/2 tsp of your scalp massage oil into the palm of your hands
      3.Run your palms together and gently apply them to your scalp
      4.Locking your fingertips onto your scalp, massage by moving the skin over your skull in small circular motions.
      5.Massage your entire scalp thoroughly
      6.Next, soak a small hand towel in hot water then wring it out and wrap over your hair.
      7.Cover with a shower cap or dry towel
      8.Rest with your head covered for 30 minutes
      9.Do not shampoo for at least an hour

      Good luck,
      love + light,

  8. Rosemary

    5 December

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