Tell us a little about yourself?
Middle Child. Type A. ADD. OCD. Entrepreneur. Mother of 3. Wife of 1.
What excites you most about Motherhood?
Having children to learn and grow with. There are no books, tips or guidelines that prepare you for the roller coaster of emotions Motherhood sends you on. I have made mistakes with my kids, but as I become aware of my missteps I apologize to them (if applicable) and do my best to do the right thing by my kids. In any event, my husband and I only work to make sure I have enough money for my kids future therapy.
What is the one most important thing you hope to teach your children?
To accept themselves. I want them to know they are perfectly imperfect. The most important thing I want them to know is that they are enough.
I have also learned that less is more. Materialistic advantages have caused many children/adolescents to experience depression, anxiety and substance abuse. Materialism, the pressure to achieve and perfectionism are causing crisis in our children. Though these privileged kids come off confident, many of them are disconnected because they lack basic psychological development. They have no authentic sense of self. Sadly, this is unknowingly caused by controlling, ‘helicopter’ parenting.
Tell us one thing that you have learned since becoming a mom?
Your children are never going to be you. They are their own person. While they may inherit traits and characteristics from their parents, each child has their own path to travel.
What are you most looking forward to?
Grandchildren. I hear that they are the reward for being a parent.
What are some of your favorite things? Think Oprah lol
Statement pieces (jewelry), nice purses, shoes that make me 5 inches taller, girls weekend, pillow talk with my hubby and good photo app to make me 5 lbs lighter in pictures.
What or who inspires you?
Kanye said it best…I INSPIRE ME. Kidding. I’m inspired by stories of self-made wealth and overcoming adversity. I am inspired by the wisdom, values and humility of Warrant Buffet. I am inspired by Oprah’s story of female minority transcending color lines and sexual orientation to becoming one of the most iconic figures in this generation. I am inspired by my parents who were born and raised in the Philippines who had the courage to come to the US to build a life for their 3 children. And though they only knew how to parent with Filipino values they were still able to raise 3 girls in a Westernized community to be culturally aware and proud of the heritage as well as remaining nationalistic (American). I am inspired by my husband – a selfless man who is loving and supportive in every way possible.
How would you describe your style?
Downtown chic meets suburban riff raff
What’s your favorite clothing brand?
Banana Republic and J Crew
What’s favorite recipe to cook for your family?
Bangin’ Breakfast Potatoes, Spaghetti, Tacos, Fried Rice
What makes your soul happy?
A quiet place to hide and reflect on life’s wondrous gifts
What’s one of your proudest mommie moments?
Seeing my kids well behaved in a restaurant and then having someone come to our table to reaffirm that we have well behaved children
What do you wish you had more time for?
Now tell us, what’s in your purse Fly Mommie?
Keys, iPhone, portable phone charger, Franklin Covey organizer, pen/pencil case (I’m secretly a 7 year old Japanese girl), Kate Spade make up bag with makeup, Gucci make up bag with high blood pressure medication, Altoids, mini scissors, mini plucker, ponytail holders, extra pair of contacts. Nail file, safety pin, Jo Malone Blackberry & Bay perfume tester, Crabtree & Evelyn lotion, Fresh Sugar Advanced Lip Therapy, MAC Morning Coffee Lip Liner, MAC Velvet Teddy Lipstick, MAC Ariana Grande lipglass, comb, hairspray, antibacterial hand gel, hand/butt wipes and TMC – The Mini Crew (little figurines representing of my kids. I take pictures of TMC with me when I travel and text pictures back to my kids so they know that I take them with me on my travel). //I’m pretty sure you’re sorry you asked this question. You were probably better off asking what can I fit in my clutch,//
I have to be honest…I was pretty horrible with my skincare routine in my thirties but I have learned to not neglect myself! What beauty brands do you use and what’s your beauty routine?
I was blessed with many gifts, but porcelain skin was not one. I use Clinique. Clairsonic is a must.
With accomplishments come fear and as moms, we’re always worried right? What’s your biggest money fear?
I don’t fear money. Money is my friend. In the past, there were days I freaked out not knowing if I could make my card payment or if tuition would be late, but here I am at age 43 and my hit rate is 100%. Sure, there were days that things didn’t turn out the way I wanted them to, but we survived. And here I am able to look back on those times which gives me comfort in knowing that the days I was worried was just another day.
What advice would you give your 21 year old self?
You’re going to fall and people are going to tell you bit off more than you can chew. But it’s better to choke on greatness than to nibble on mediocrity. So, know you’re limitations and defy them.
After feelings of self-doubt, fear or feeling depleted, how do you find your way back to center?
I gave that little voice in my head that tells me that I can’t or shouldn’t a name – Devilyn. When she starts whispering to me telling me that I shouldn’t do it because I could be rejected or fail, I tell Devilyn to go away because she’s not being helpful and then I remind myself that I am a badass and I’m doing the best that I can. Great things come to those that hustle.
What is your mantra?
History repeats itself until you learn the lesson.
What are you passionate about?
The happiness of my family, relationships with my friends/family and inspiring others.
Do you belong to or donate your time to any charitable/philanthropic organizations and if so, which ones?
After a few years hiatus, we are re-launching our organization SWIRLS FOR GIRLS a non-profit organization whose mission is to bring girls of all flavors together to support and inspire each other through culturally diverse and interactive education, mentorship, friendship and activities.
Why you’re a QUINKENZO Fly Mommie…
Jennifer is Fly because as much as she’s a bit of a badass, she also has an innate ability to welcome anyone into any situation with a sense of humor and a beautiful, engaging spirit. I first met her through a mutual friend who connected us because of her organization, Swirls For Girls, and it was there I experienced her ability to juggle so many aspects of her life with grace and humility and still shine as a mom, a friend, an aunt, an entrepreneur and a wife. Her outspoken commitment to her family and her craft is a joy to watch and she does it ever so effortlessly in 4 inch heels! To me, Jennifer embodies what #ModernMotherhood is all about. Empowered. Free. Creative. Smart. Compassionate. Ambitious. Passionate. Strong. Loving. Giving.
in love + light,
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