Today, I’m thrilled to be joining @nakeiachomer again, along with 2 other inspiring women, in the Don’t Settle Series. This series was created to encourage aspiring women not to settle in life, love, or business. Here are my thoughts on not settling in love:
I went through my years as a teen settling simply because I was so insecure that I couldn’t for the life of me, recognize my magic. I tried to sprinkle that shit but it just seemed to just dissipate before anyone could get a hold of it. I did stupid shit and made some really stupid decisions but luckily God got a hold of me at the tender age of 19, and right in the midst of my madness, sent me MY Special Perfect One! What’s kinda funny is, he’s far from perfect to most people and a bit complicated to many, and way to brash for some, but being with him meant I would learn all the things in life that were intended just for me to learn. I would open my heart in ways I didn’t know I could. I would push myself to be better and do better and to grow into my true, authentic self. Even through difficult times, he always made me feel that my soul was being strengthened and not broken. And through all of that, I would learn to forgive but never settle.
What I know for sure is compromise comes from a place of affirmation, validation and settling comes from a place of defeat. Compromise is a necessity in love. It’s vital. I honor you. You honor me. Let’s do this. It’s easy to confuse the two if you work from a place of ego, right? But once you understand and accept that there are many many layers to a relationship, meet that person where they are, not where you want them to be, recognize that none of us are perfect and life doesn’t always play out EXACTLY according to your plan, you start to realize the difference..without compromising yourself in the process. That’s the important part. I also think a part of not settling is to simply stay true to your authentic self, and not worry about how others perceive you or your relationship. It won’t always make sense to everyone but as long as it makes sense to you, and you can navigate through each twist and turn that’s really what matters.
Follow along… and meet the other amazing women involved in the series. @jasminepennamma @michelleforgood @nakeiachromer Comment below and tag a friend to join us in spreading the gospel of NOT settling. #dontsettle #spreadlove #shinebright #belove #peace #love #selflove
in love + light,
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